The Guilt Spiral

The guilt spiral is a mystifying thing that occurs when bad things happen to people around me. I start to feel guilty that the bad things are happening to other people instead of me. And then I start to feel guilty about feeling guilty because bad things aren’t happening to me. At this moment there…

Fuck you depression, step 1: openness

I met an old friend today, But I turned and walked the other way. Depression is not so much a friend as an enemy, I suppose. But sometimes when you know your enemies this well, they almost seem like old friends. Yesterday’s post was part acknowledging to myself that I’m here again now, I’ve come…

Will I feel better in the morning?

For a long time (years) I’ve not felt much. By which I mean my feelings have been superficial. I can feel happiness, enjoyment, sadness and all those things, and do so quite frequently, but it doesn’t really touch me. I used to be on the other end of the spectrum. I used to feel everything…

The loud shall inherit the earth

It seems to me that our society is getting increasingly louder. It probably depends on where you live, but in any city or residential area I believe this to be the case. For me, as an HSP, noise is probably my biggest “trigger”. I’m not sure what it is about noise that makes me particularly…

Reading in public and other HSP problems

One quality of being an HSP that I really appreciate most of the time, but that can also be quite stressful is that of immersion/empathy/vivid imagination. In Norwegian we have a word that  embodies this better: innlevelse. It literally means your ability to put yourself (live in) a new/imagined/foreign situation. So yes, empathy, but somehow…

My life – as an HSP (part 2 – being social)

Being around people, particularly in crowds and/or in the middle of the city is always a challenge. The past week presented quite a few such challenges for me. I try to balance having a social life and going to work with needing down time and quiet as well as I can. For a while that…

My life – as an HSP (part 1)

Let’s start at the beginning… An HSP is a Highly Sensitive Person. It is not the same as being introverted, though most HSPs are also introverts. I am one of those. Some signs of being an HSP are that you’re very aware of other people’s moods, that you react strongly to noise, colour, smell –…